How Do I Stop My Divorce - 7 Super-Strength Marriage Rescue Tips You Need to Know

Let's cut to the chase. That little voice in your head, the one asking "how do I stop my divorce" is one that is shared by way too many folks today. It's not nice wondering if you will soon be another statistic, a member of the dreaded divorce club. But listen, it really doesn't have to be that way.

Do you realize how many marriages ARE SAVED year after year, with just a few simple tweaks made to the relationship?

You asked how do I stop my divorce? Well, you do it by making small steps one at a time. You do it by first wanting to do it, and then making sure you wise up to how best you can do it.

Here are the 7 super-strength marriage rescue tips you need to know to stop your divorce, strengthen the relationship and put a big spark right back in:

1. Close the distance. The more distant you are with your partner, or your partner with you, the closer you are to divorce. Don't allow the space between you to grow another inch. Close the gap, open up with your spouse and communicate.

2. Commitment. This has to be there on both sides. But that doesn't mean you can take zero responsibility for how committed your spouse is to you. Even if you're totally committed, and you feel your spouse is the opposite, it doesn't let you off the hook. Why? Because you can and must encourage commitment. It takes two in every sense of the word.

3. Listen. Don't ignore your spouse. Never do that! Take what your partner is saying seriously. Look out for the REASONS for why they feel the way they do. When you understand the reasons, then and only then can you ever hope to address those reasons. Therein lies the inner voice of your partner, the part of them which is considering divorce. Read that again, it is crucial.

4. Never, never, never beg or plead. Ever. Pathetic and weak are not attractive qualities. It is not persuasive. Do not ever make this mistake. It is one of the worse things you can do. You will only be giving the divorce gun more ammunition. Trust me, you won't be asking "how do I stop my divorce," you'll want to know why you're single again!

5. Talk. Never accuse. Discuss. Never talk AT your partner. Force negates every time. The moment you accuse, talk at or shout, your spouse will stop listening. Never allow your spouse to turn-off from you! Every time they do, that little inner voice in their head will be justifying the divorce option more and more.

6. Be solution orientated. Always seek HOW you can BOTH make it work from wherever you are. Mistakes and who's fault it is or was is a poison which eats marriages for breakfast. The antidote is forgiveness AND forgetting. Both, every time. You must LET GO of it completely and only allow HOW you can BOTH make it work occupy your mind.

7. Look for and create, TOGETHER activities. Read snippets from the paper out loud to your spouse instead of reading in complete silence. Take your spouse with you on trips. Explore new things TOGETHER. Yes, this is a simple and obvious step, but it is a vitally important one. It is the glue that holds your marriage together.

Ultimately, realize that there ARE things you can say and do which can change the course of your marriage dramatically. When you learn them and can spot them, everything changes. Your marriage will rock!

Go create happiness!

T. Guy